Oct 7, 20232 min read

Self-Control In Preschool

Help Your Child Gain Self-Control in and out of the classroom!

When asked about school readiness skills, many teachers say children who succeed in kindergarten know when and how to control their impulses. They can follow through when a task is difficult and listen to directions for a few minutes. These skills are linked to self-control. Children can develop them at preschool and at home. Here are a few ways families can help children learn self-control.

Tip #1 - Change the rules of a game to make it an opposite game.

For example, instead of playing the familiar version of Simon Says, play Simon Doesn’t Say. Explain the new rule in words and actions: “Do the opposite of what Simon asks you to do. If Simon Says ‘Touch your head,’ you should touch your toes.” Be sure to demonstrate how this works. Keep directions simple. Take turns being Simon.

Tip #2 - Finish what you are doing, then respond to requests for attention.

For example, if you are on the phone and your child asks for something (and it’s not an emergency), let her know you need to take time to complete your conversation. This is a good way to let your child practice waiting for a short time.

"Those who can have patience can have whatever they want.”

–Benjamin Franklin–

Tip #3 - Do activities together that require following directions.

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Tip #4 - Help children understand how long they will have to wait for something and suggest activities to do while they wait.

Say to your child, “Grammy and Grampy are coming over before dinner. Would you like to draw some pictures to give them?” or “As soon as I put your sister to bed, I will read you some stories. You can choose three books for us to read together.”

Tip #5 - Work with your child to complete a puzzle that has a few more pieces than he or she is used to.

Set up the puzzle in a place where you can work on it for several days, if needed. Celebrate together when one of you puts the last piece in place.

Kindergarten Readiness is Commitment.

Keep in tune over the next months as we help send activities and tips on how to get your child ready for kindergarten. We will talk about emotions, academics, mental health and nutrition. Most importantly we will help you and your child be ready for the next stage in your lives.

Resources: Source: Adapted from the Message in a Backpack, Teaching Young Children 4 (2): 23